What makes you feel great? (5 min read)

I’ll tell you what made me feel great. 

Travelling Europe with my now Fiance’ (we got engaged in Ireland, it was freaking beautiful and was the scariest thing i have ever done in my life lol). 

And it wasn’t for the reasons you might think.

The escape was of course lovely, the whether was beautiful and the lack of “busy” was magical. 

But it was the fact that while I was away, I was able to fill the 4 needs that govern my world with ease. And even though stress of work and money and building a house and running businesses and being busy were still present,

“I had clarity.”

So in this months Mindset & Goal Setting Workshop our focus was on identifying what makes you feel great. And as all things in psychology aren’t always so obvious, in our 45 min session we delved into what it is that you need, what drives you, what can hold you back and how to open your eyes to what actually controls the way you view the world and how react to it. Because once you have mapped that out, once you understand your guidance system and the fuel you need, you gain clarity like never before and it’s like a fire has been ignited underneath you and you become ready to take on the world. 

We have all felt like this before. So amazing that even the impossible doesn’t seem that far out of reach. But we’ve all fallen back into distress and cloudy mind just as often. 

So, let’s have a look at that. 

There are 4 human needs that every single person has to meet and will meet each and every day. 

  1. Certainty
  2. Uncertainty
  3. Love & Connection
  4. Significance

The question is, which of these do you need more of? You need them all, all of the time, you just need different amounts. Do you need lots of certainty in your life? Are you always chasing significance? Do you yearn for love and connection? Or do find solace in chaos? 

Honestly, it doesn’t really matter. 

What matters is whether or not you’re aware of what you need and how you receive your needs.

Because you can achieve the same level of any of them through many different ways, some productive, many destructive.

Once you have started to understand why you do things a bit more, let’s see how you do them. 

What are the standards that you hold that define who you are, every single day. 

Are you clean? Are you messy? Do you always find the positive in any situation? Are you honest? Do you pay attention to detail? Do you always give 100% in everything you do? Do you love unconditionally? Do you swear? Do you drink? Are you fit? Are you healthy? 

Write as many things as you can possibly think of. What is it that undeniably makes you, you? 

“If you were to create a behavioural clone of yourself, you would first input your standards.”

A standard is who you honestly believe you are and the only time you drop that standard is when you change that belief, not because you want to have a weekend off. So when you write this list, be completely honest, open & transparent. 

The beauty of understanding your standards is realising that they are what have helped you achieve everything you have ever gained and is responsible for anything that you didn’t. 

So if you want more from your life, identify on that list, the standards that have held you back and the ones that have gotten you to where you are and raise them to the next level. 

What we know, is that no matter how much equipment we have, how many people you train with, how amazing the trainers are, if you don’t feel great, you don’t want to grow. You don’t want to step up to the next challenge, you hold on to and identify with whatever it is that is preventing you from feeling great.

So, before you start all of the above exercises, start with this simple piece of homework.

Write a list of 30 things that make you feel GREAT!

Spread them across 3 categories:

Personal      |      Professional      |      Spiritual

Once you have written that list, send them to me denee@uftplaygrounds.com.au and let’s see how we can spend more time on the things that make us feel great every day. Because if we can spend more time in that state, you’ll always be ready to take on the world.

I’m really looking forward to hearing your responses and seeing you all at the next workshop.

Let me know if you’re coming 7:30-8:15pm Tuesday the 31st of July 2018. 

Enjoy your day & PLAY 😀

Denee

2018-07-09T05:40:17+10:00

About the Author:

Denee Lalouette
A UFT PLAYground is a place that people of all shapes, sizes and ages learn to develop their movement abilities through an infinite learning and development program. UFT PLAYgrounds have been created to re-inspire our natural ability to move, create, adapt, re-act, connect, have fun and of course PLAY. PLAYgrounds have been developed to allow people to feel and explore their own abilities by utilising a multidimensional, infinite, creative and PLAYful approach to training. We live in a world full of specialists and obsessions. At an ever increasing rate, people are specialising more and more, in their jobs, in their businesses, in their sport and in their training. The result, is a backward step in human evolution. By specialising, we limit ourselves to thinking that 1 particular way of doing things is the right way, or the only way. We promote creativity, not only in movement and training methodologies but in thinking in general. A UFT PLAYground is created to provide the general public with an opportunity to PLAY across multiple styles of training and moving, to be able to progress in the training methods that they become passionate about or that excites them and to be a part of a community that promotes more than just fitness. The “fitness” industry above all others has brought about a need to specialise in order to achieve anything, and majority of what we do for “fitness” is for an aesthetically pleasing reason. We understand that aesthetics are nice and we too love to look and feel good. However a UFT PLAYground is developed to allow people to move better than ever before across a broad range of training methodologies and ideas. Aesthetics, therefore are a result not a goal of that system. We know that “If you train to look good, you will not always enjoy what you do, but if you PLAY a lot, and do the things that you love, you will ending up looking good”. Aesthetics should be a result not a goal. For years now, we have recognised that the best movers on the planet are children. They are flexible, mobile & fit, they have better relative strength than a typical adult (and even most adolescents), they are the best creators and innovators, they learn faster, the adapt better, they interact better with other people, they are more connected to nature and most importantly, they PLAY more than anyone else. As adults, we tend to believe that because we are taller and more experienced in “life”, we are better, and then we get to an age that says we are “too old to PLAY”. As we grow taller (and in a lot of cases rounder), we experience things that inhibit our ability to move, think and not think. We allow our experiences to limit our abilities as humans, whether it be a physical injury, a story that we heard or a youtube video that we watched. We also allow our emotions to control our behaviour because of our past experiences. Maybe it was the feeling of humiliation when we tried something new, regret when we failed or heart break when it was taken away from us. Because of this, we allow our experiences to control our future instead of learning from them and creating our own . This is what UFT PLAYground’s are built on. The understanding that we as humans need to go back to the way things were before our negative experiences took over our subconscious mind and body. A UFT PLAYground gives people the ability to re-learn what they have lost, as well as develop new sets of skills that will allow them to follow any particular passion that they uncover in PLAYtime. When we PLAY, we are simply, exploring. Through exploring we become curious and through curiosity we become obsessed or passionate about a particular thing. This is why in a PLAYground we allow people to PLAY across a broad range of training systems (minimum of 3), Through this system they are able to identify 1, their current limitations and be educated on how to overcome them, and 2, identify their passions and learn to develop, grow and excel in them. UFT PLAYgrounds are also a development centre for up and coming entrepreneurs in the fitness industry. Each PLAYground founder will have been trained and will be continuously trained in UFT’s Trainer Success System. This system allows personal trainers, coaches, teachers, instructors, etc. to continue to develop in their fields of specialty (as they play they will find it) and in the philosophy of PLAYtime. They will also be trained in the business systems of UFT in order to have their own successful and profitable business. See UFT Trainer Success System for more details.

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